TANTRUMS of the young and old

Sigh. I love peace. Thank God I married my peace-loving buddy. And my best friend is truly another peace loving and classy gal.


Listen to WISDOM
The past few days were horrid. Well, Wisdom says that it is better to minimise liasing with people that are prone to rob your family of peace and joy. Sometimes, what these "not so peace loving beings" want is ATTENTION!!!! ATTENTION!!! ATTENTION!!! and they will do anything, everything to get what they want NOW!!!! just like toddler tantrums. I've tried being a bridge, a minister, a counsellor but a the end of the day, all these gimmicks and antics dry up my patience and tire me emotionally unneccessarily. Already I am pretty patient a person (of course my partner is LAGI patient, remember he is better than me in really almost every aspect!!!) I realised too that GIVING them the attention does not help them to be better individuals at all. Sometimes it is better to teach one how to fish than to serve them the steam garoupa all the time.

Baby Tantrums
Rachel throws an average of 2 tantrums a day. Usually it is due to the fact that she can't take "NO" for an answer or can't do things her OWN way. She gets frustrated when she can't get in position in time to participate in the Barney videos like sitting in an empty box singing and pretending along that it is an aeroplane. She has learnt now by making a few groans that Mummy with back track the video for her to start again, that there is NO NEED for any anger or frustration.

Recently she has learnt to "wait" a day!! She understands that Mummy and Daddy will get her a new video or toy Tomorrow. In fact, she will remind you the first thing she wakes up the next day. Like wise she has also learnt to say "wait...I don't want!" to bathing and meals sometimes.

SuperNanny
We learnt a lot from Jo Frost the Super Nanny. Indeed she had 15 years of precious experience minding other people's kids. Time and time again I find assurance in her advices and tips. For example she prefers that toddlers be toilet trained when they are ready usually after 30months or 2.5 years old to 3. Rachel is definitely not ready for it, we have decided to train her a couple of months down the road though she can now remove her own diaper when instructed to do so. I am also giving her some "bare bottom" moments after her Mickey Mouse bath tub sessions with a swimming Donald Duck that Ah Ma( my mum) gives. Oh!!!!She loves to bathe with Cheryl her 5 year old cousin when we do visit my mum's place. The 2 girls have so much fun soaping each other and giggling non stop that you will join in laughing. Hahaha

The elderly like to pressure you to get your baby out of diapers. "Why so slow de?" "Still not toilet trained yet??? Aiyo...my 2 kids toilet train before 1 year old. Now a days people rather their kids covered with mess whole day wor..." retorted the Super Nagger!!

First Concert Date
Anyway thank God for local Supernanny Nancy. She took good care of rachel on friday night, so yan and I could go for a concert at VCH. Our first since rachel was born!!! What a victory!!! True Freedom!!!! And the best part is i can eat my Kenny Rogers dinner with both hands and not have to feed her at the same time. The food certainly taste so much better when one can ENJOY eating!!!

The concert was amazing!!!! I particularly was enthralled by the Scarbo in Maurice Ravel's Gaspard de la nuit. Such impressive performance!!! One can't help but imagine that the pianist Minoru Nojima does nothing in his life but sit at the piano practice practice practice. Yan played mainly Ondine which i can relate to but the third movement is so demanding that it seemed to be written for the superhuman someone like Minoru.

i love going to concerts! I like the pre concert preparation, the big question. What to wear? what kind of make up to go with what i intend to wear? What bag or shoes is not such a headache as i do not own that many to confuse me, as yet. But sigh...I wish i will soon look into my future watch "closet" and sigh. Tag Heuer Aqua Racer with diamonds or BVLGARI or Omega constellation???. Yes, I am still DREAMING of starting a TIMEPIECE collection, may be i should get a REAL watch every year. Or better still as a wedding anniversary gift. To me they are better than diamond rings.

I also like the post concert debrief sessions. Usually with a drink, alcoholic or coffee but our de brief this time was to rush and fetch our princess back from the nanny's place. On the way back we were surprised by the stunning fire works display. This being the NDP rehearsal night and the last farewell to National Stadium where i re dedicated my life to Jesus at 13.

Life certainly looks good. I sincerely believe the next half will be a better half year in this Year of Abundance. All the more when i made up my mind to stop Worrying and instead trust and receive more of God's Grace! Amen